Sometimes in a relationship we don’t realize that eventually we will have to grow together. When the relationship starts to get more serious and you have been dating for a long time you also have to take into count that you both were not the same as you were when you first started dating. But when do you realize that something has to change?
After an argument with your mate do you then take a step back and analyze what was said and take that into consideration? Or have we become so selfish that we don’t think that people do grow, and we either grow with them or let them go. When we finally realize that it is time for the relationship to grow, is it too late? Can the relationship be saved after a continuous of arguments lead by jealousy, insecurity, or just simply by one mate holding a grudge?
Relationships are meant to be fun and carefree. But there does come a time when the relationship will go to the next level and both partners have to look at the big picture closely and see if you can grow together. But is change always a good thing? In love do changes always have to occur in order to save the relationship, or does change mess up the bond that is shared and cause more problems for the one that does not really want the change. Change is a good thing, and if love is really present you should want to grow with that person, but change also has to be for the better and not for the worse. Nobody wants to have regrets.
4 comments:
I really like your insight on this. I think that what you said about what to do for the next step is great. It was interesting for me to read that maybe the next step for a relationship is to let that person go. That is a really I guess, a brave thing to say. To relise that maybe it would be the right step for two people is to go their seprate ways.
I really like your topic too. It really isn't somthing people talk about a lot and I like how you are stepping up to the challege. I loved the questions you posted in this because it really makes someone think about what is the right thing to do. I love how you asked if when people grow do they do it with each other or with out them. I really liked your post. I also like how your colors of your blog fit with the topic.
Thas sweet. Nice blog
Goodness girl I would have to say that I really see where your comimg from. I have been in two 2 1/2 year relationships and I know from experience about the changes a couple will go through. I like how you pointed out that people do sometimes change in order to save the relationship, but sometimes I think change can be a bad thing.
Coming from those two relationships taught me two things: One-always be me, no matter what, because I got wrapped up in all the "thinking I was in love and he'd be the one I would spend the rest of my life with" hoopla and realized I had changed myself for him. I did everything he asked, I was basically a walking puppet, so no in that case, I think change is bad. The second thing I learned was that no one can ever make me change if I don't want to. Thats probably the most valuable thing I have learned. I liked all of your challenging questions, because not alot of people like to talk about this sort of thing, and your challenging us as individuals in a relationship to sit down and think.
I loved your post, can't wait to see what you say next! :)
Tiffany--
You write some nice prose, and you are the queen of the rhetorical question. You mean "not for the worse", not "worst." 5/5
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