Dear Love and Happiness....

I am writing you because I have a problem with my boyfriend. He lies about where he is, he still talks to his ex-girlfriend on a regular basis, and he makes trips to places that I don’t know about. This isn’t the first time this has happened either. What should I do to make sure that he’s not cheating on me and how can I trust him?
-Lost for words, NY

Lost for words,
It seems like trust is a very big issue that you have and it might also tie into insecurity. If you feel like you can’t trust him, or if he makes you feel like you’re not number one in his life then why are you wasting your time? There’s really no way you can find out if he’s cheating on you or not. All you can do is talk to him. If you feel like this is the best relationship that you’ve ever been in and you real love this person than tell him how you feel. If it leads to an argument then just let it go. It’s not worth it if you have doubts like this all the time or if the problems keep recurring. If you think that person can change then stay with them and try to work things out. But if you feel like these problems will still be problems in the future then just try to move on with you life. It will be hard at first but you will get over it eventually.
-Love and Happiness